Archive for April, 2010

I Will Be Teaching an Online Summer Bible Study!

Tuesday, April 20th, 2010

Over the past several months I’ve received emails from girls all over the world who want to know if it’s possible to purchase CDs or DVDs from my past speaking events. Sadly, I always have to tell them that while I would love to do that I just don’t have the technology for it right now.

But, I’ve come up with a solution that I hope will make many of you very happy. This summer I will teach a six-week Bible study via vlog on my blog using one of the True Life Bible study books. I’ll offer a special discount of $5 per book to all who want to participate (if you live overseas I will try to work with your on an affordable shipping option).  

This Bible study will launch in late June or early July but right now I’m trying to figure out which book to use so I can begin preparing (and so I can make sure I have enough copies of the book in stock). So, I’m asking you to vote. You can visit the Books section at my website and read about Leah, Hagar and Miriam and then come back here and cast your vote in the comments section.

Once we decide on a title I’ll come up with a discount code so you can purchase the book in advance. This is how the study will work: Each week you will do the homework in the book and then you will log on and watch the video at your convenience. The videos will go live every Tuesday but if you can’t watch them until Thursday, no sweat.

Some of you may want to watch with friends and then discuss the book afterwards. I would love that! If you choose this option I would love to Skype with your group at some point during our study.

Now, remember, these are vlog style videos so they aren’t professional quality. I’ll be coming to you straight from my living room. But I do plan to offer solid messages that run for 15-20 minutes.

If this sounds like something you want to do please take a minute and vote for the book of your choice. Then email a link to this post all of your friends and have them come and vote to.

I’ m looking forward to jumping into the Word with you this summer!

How We Put My Husband Through College Without Debt

Thursday, April 15th, 2010

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Last night my husband finished his degree. Now it’s all over but the ceremony. And when I say that I mean it—we won’t be bombarded with student loan bills.

We aren’t wealthy. Michael and I earn average incomes. So, how did we accomplish something that seems impossible?

It wasn’t easy and it started long before Michael found himself at the Christian university that touted a whopping $28,000 price tag for the last year and a half of his educational journey.

This story started nearly five years ago in the tiny apartment we shared when we first got married. One night as I was paying bills I realized we had more money going out than coming in. Our meager savings was going to take a hit again.

We didn’t live an extravagant lifestyle and we made decent incomes. So why we never had enough money was a mystery to us. But we were desperate to find out.

A friend told me about Crown Financial Ministries and in desperation I checked out their website, ordered some books and listened to their radio program. Within a few days it became obvious that we needed a spending plan.

The first few months were rough. Nobody enjoys cutting back. It was difficult to realize it was the small purchases like Starbucks and eating out that were draining our bank account. Those things were doing more damage than big purchases because there weren’t any big purchases. We literally saved thousands of dollars in the first year just by cutting back on small things.

At this time we also began putting Michael through the affordable junior college system. When he was younger he’d gone to a Bible college that allowed him the benefit of studying abroad in London, Scotland and Israel but left him with zero units to transfer in for a business degree. We knew that staring with the junior college system would give us the time we needed to save for tuition at the Christian university he wanted to transfer to.

As the time for Michael to transfer grew closer our cutbacks became steeper. I stopped getting my nails done. Michael worked longer hours. I picked up freelance writing work on topics that bored me to tears. We decided to skip a vacation. These were the hardest sacrifices to make. We were working harder than before and spending far less than what we made. I battled a sense of entitlement.

We make decent incomes and we work really hard, I thought to myself, we should be able to go out to a nice dinner or go on vacation. But each time we sat down and crunched the numbers we realized that living a cash only lifestyle wouldn’t allow us to do everything. We had to choose. 

I believe God provided for Michael’s tuition. But He didn’t do it in a way that had bundles of money falling from the sky. Instead, He forced us into a situation where we had to learn to steward money well. When we began accounting for every penny He gave us it was easy to see He provided enough. And sometimes He provided more than enough.

At the end of the summer we decided not to go on vacation, Michael won a six-day all expenses paid trip to Puerto Rico. So we got to relax with some fun in the sun. The magnitude of such a gift was not lost on our weary souls. That trip gave us the boost we needed to push through to the end of the journey.

I don’t tell you this story to brag. Instead, I tell it with the hope of inspiring you. There are people every day who make the choice to get out of debt and live a cash only lifestyle. The key to making such a life changing decision can be summed up by this old adage:

How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.

You have to start somewhere. So start with a spending plan.

The fact that we just put Michael through college without any debt is proof of one thing: living a cash only lifestyle is possible.

So what are you waiting for?

She Seeks: What Does the Bible Really Mean?

Tuesday, April 13th, 2010

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When I was fifteen years old I thought God told me who I was going to marry. I could even quote a Bible verse explaining my reasoning. It’s embarrassing to type that now, but back then I was convinced that God used a Bible verse to tell me I was going to marry one of my guy friends.

Imagine my devastation when he married someone else. I was shocked. By then I was well over the guy but I couldn’t seem to wrap my mind around one thing: God lied to me, or so I thought. I read the verse and re-read it. I knew what it said. But I didn’t know what it meant — or what the original author intended for it to mean, anyway.

To read the rest of this post come visit me over at She Seeks.

Contest Winners!

Friday, April 9th, 2010

Happy Friday!

I used random.org to help me select the winners for the Sandra Byrd London Confidential contest.

Winner of Book #1 Asking for Trouble is:

2 (Tonya)

Winner of Book #2 Through Thick and Thin is:

6 (Elin)

If you are one of the winners please email me your mailing address so I can get your book in the mail to you next week. Thanks to all who entered. I hope to offer another contest here soon.

Win a Copy of One of Sandra Byrd’s Latest Books

Wednesday, April 7th, 2010

The first two books in Sandra Byrd’s London Confidential series have just released and thanks to some serious arm twisting a generous donation from Tyndale House Publishers I have one free copy (each) of Asking for Trouble and Through Thick and Thin to give away.

To enter, all you have to do is watch the trailer above (if you can’t see the video click here) and tell me the name of the newspaper editor Savvy wants to impress. Make sure you also leave an email address where I can contact you if you win.

I’ll use random.org to pick the winners and will announce who won on Friday. To enter you must submit your comment no later than midnight (Pacific) on Thursday, April 8th.

Amy Grant: Better Than a Hallelujah

Tuesday, April 6th, 2010

Sometimes song lyrics are more powerful than blog posts. This is my new favorite song. If you can’t see the video above click here.

Exposing the Myth of Prince Charming Part 2

Thursday, April 1st, 2010

iStock_000006861693XSmallThe following is part 2 in a series written by Meredith Young. To read part 1 click here.

It took five years for it to dawn on me: Prince Charming was a myth. 

And I don’t say this with a cynical voice anymore; I say it as truth.  The stories we were told as children were just stories – to base our expectations off of fairytales has been fruitless and harmful to our development as the beautiful young women we were created to be. We have so strived to be that idea of a princess and have ended up with broken hearts. 

The only stories we are to believe are true, and it just so happens that the most romantic book written is the Bible.  Instead of thinking of it as God’s rulebook, think of it as God’s answer to fairytales. 

Instead of an elusive object to seek after, like a prince, we have a relationship to pursue, which God has already begun with us.  It was the sacrifice of His Son that gave us the greatest freedom we will ever experience.   We are freed of our endless pursuit of the princess ideal; in Him, we are free to be ourselves and find complete acceptance. 

Having a relationship with God doesn’t get rid of all those pressures of perfection, but it certainly makes it easier to have someone perfect adoring you!  When we toss aside those unrealistic expectations for the perfect prince, we also open ourselves up to more meaningful friendships with our guy friends – our brothers in Christ – and later on, perhaps romantic relationships. 

 When the expectations for ourselves change, we are then able to be more accepting of the opposite gender, rather than being frustrated at their lack of perfection.  I definitely support the idea of having a set list of things that you want in your future husband, or even the guys you may date, but realize that they must be real things; the perfect human being exists only in Christ, and each man will have flaws.   It’s realizing what things are non-negotiable, things like a strong faith, good morals, a handsome smile, or intelligence – whatever you value most, realizing that every man will have flaws.

When I was twelve years old, before I met Peter and made all of those grand mistakes of insecurity, I made a list of things I wanted to find in a guy.  Over the years, that list has been edited as I grew as a person, but the basic foundation is still there.  Let me share with you my list:

  • God-loving, God-fearing, God-serving heart.
  • A sense of humor
  • A handsome smile OR thoughtful eyes
  • Humble intelligence
  • Godly leadership skills and the will to use them
  • Ability to own up to and apologize for mistakes
  • Compassion
  • Self-control
  • Strong church home & a solid group of male friends
  • Ability to appreciate, if not understand
  • Strength – physically and emotionally.

Four years ago, I met a guy who I never would have given a second thought.  This June, I’ll be marrying that guy.  He’s not perfect—he deals with anger, frustration, and selfishness just like everyone—but he is perfect for me. 

Our gifts and personalities complement each other by bringing out the best – just what God designed.  When we find ourselves content in the Lord, He will grant us the deepest desires of our hearts.  It is only a matter of allowing His romance to drown out the legend of Prince Charming.