Posts Tagged ‘dreams’

The Difference Between A Dream and The Calling

Thursday, October 28th, 2010

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Bob the Tomato spoke at my college graduation.

Well, technically, Phil Vischer was the commencement speaker. But he did do the Bob voice. So that counts, right?

It was 2003 and Phil had just survived the bankruptcy and collapse of the VeggieTales empire. There was something raw and courageous about the way he spoke. Everyone in the gymnasium sat on the edge of their seats as he repeatedly asked, and attempted to answer, his own haunting question:

What do you do when you have a dream, God shows up in it, and then it dies?

I was twenty-one years old. My first book had been published the summer before. Two publishers and a literary agent wanted to talk to me about my future as an author. In a few months I would be speaking at events on a major platform with some big names. All of my dreams were coming true.

Yet, I knew I needed to listen and pay close attention. Phil had learned some very important lessons about God and dreams and I wished desperately for a pen to take notes. Since I didn’t have one on me, I opted to purchase the CD of his commencement address and the book he later released detailing the same story.

I’ve thought of Phil Vischer often in the last seven years. During a season in my own ministry where it looked like my dreams were surely dead I pounded my feet to a treadmill as I listened to his commencement address again.

A few weeks ago, Phil was on Focus on the Family radio. When several people suggested I listen to the podcasts I knew it was time to revisit his story. This time Phil was further removed from the pain he experienced in 2003 and he was filled with even more wisdom.

He said something that struck me and seemed to answer questions I was still forming in the deep places of my heart. I don’t remember how he worded it exactly, but he said something like:

You can’t confuse the calling with the dream. You must ask God if each little, specific, thing is part of His will for you.

He went on to explain that he knew God’s calling on his life was to make life-changing movies from a Christian worldview. But, during the VeggieTales, years he quickly confused that with becoming the Christian Walt Disney. Phil was busy dreaming of feature films, spinoff toy products, and even an amusement park. God was only asking Phil to develop creative stories that would teach the Bible to kids.

As Phil expanded his empire he began assuming that everything that fueled his dream was part of God’s will. Eventually, he found himself in over his head with his dream going up in smoke. He lost it all. Everything Phil poured into VeggieTales was packed into boxes and sold at a bankruptcy auction.

After listening to Phil’s recent interview I sat down with my journal and a pen. I divided all of the things I am currently doing into one of two categories—The Dream and The Calling. With raw honesty I began to examine my own course of action and determine what I knew to be God’s will for this season of my life and what I just assumed fit with the big picture I had conjured up in my head.

The results were surprising. I challenge you to use the same exercise, especially if you are pursuing a large dream. In the meantime, let’s talk about this.  

What do you think of the Phil’s words about differentiating the dream from the calling? When have you confused the two? How can we do a better job at evaluating what really is God’s calling on our lives and what just seems like it would fit? In what ways can Phil’s mistake keep us from making our own?  

When Someone Else Gets What You Want

Thursday, September 2nd, 2010

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Disappointment stinks. Rejection hurts. There’s something unsettling about knowing that somebody was chosen and it wasn’t you.

Yesterday I got an email from a friend who was just turned down by a publisher she dreamed of working with. It stung. As I read her email I felt her pain. She got an answer I heard last month: I’m sorry but we just signed a competing work. What you are writing is too close to something we already have.

Technically that’s code for: Someone else already wrote it—better and faster.

Instead of railing against the publisher in her email my friend asked me how I handle rejection and how I get rid of the nagging feeling of competition that comes when I find out somebody else got the contract for the book I wanted to write.

This is what I told her:

1) God is the ultimate authority. That means God is giving and withholding book contracts in ways that fit best with His overall plans. Even when I feel like an editor rejected me or another author stole my thunder, I have to remember God is ultimately in control and His ways aren’t my ways and His thoughts aren’t my thoughts (Is. 55:8). It’s not my place to question His authority and I know His plans for me are good (Jer. 29:11). In the grand scheme of things I’ve found there are opportunities I shouldn’t have ever had that were given to me and opportunities I thought I deserved that were withheld. Only God knows His reasoning behind those things. Trust Him even when you don’t understand.  

2) Second Corinthians 9:8 says that in all things and at all times God has supplied me with everything I need to fulfill the good works He has assigned to me. No book contract? Then I don’t need one at the moment to fulfill the good works assigned for me right now. So, I take my eyes off the situation and begin to look around for what God has currently equipped me to do. Many times it’s through doing other things that new book ideas come and I’m able to replace a dead proposal with a new one.

These answers might frustrate you the same way they sometimes irritate me. But that doesn’t make them any less true.

God has given you everything you need to do His will in this moment. If He’s withholding something—or someone—you think it vital to your wellbeing you are mistaken. He has His reasons. They are for your good. Someday He may tell you.

But then again, He might not.

So, decide to trust Him anyway. Look at what He has currently given you. Not at what He hasn’t. Thank Him for whatever it is, however small it may be. Then do something for Him with it.

Do what you can even if you can’t do what you dream of. That’s always a step in the right direction.

No More Goal Setting

Wednesday, January 13th, 2010

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The beginning of the year is a prime time for goal setting. I’m sure you have a short list of resolutions like most people do. Normally, in January, I have several post-its peppered with all of the things I want to accomplish in the New Year stuck all around my desk. But this year I decided to give up on goal setting.

Yep. You read that right. No more goal setting for me. Ever. Now, before you suggest I meet with a pastor, counselor or life coach let me explain myself. A few weeks ago my husband came home from work with a new perspective that I quickly adopted too. His boss said something I found profound:

“I don’t believe in goals, I believe in commitments. If I set a goal and I don’t reach it I blame it on circumstances. But if I make a commitment to myself that I am going to do something then I do whatever it takes to make it happen.”

Hmmm. Holding to a philosophy like that really forces you to differentiate between dreams and plans. For instance, in high school I dreamed of being senior class president. Since it involved forces out of my control I couldn’t actually make that dream come true—so calling it a goal was really misnaming it.

However, I could plan to implement the best campaign strategy I knew how and see what happened from there. That was something I could commit to. Do you see the difference? Choosing to make commitments in place of setting goals requires you to be an active participant in changing your circumstances.  

A philosophy like this also makes you break long-term goals down into bite-sized commitments that are achievable. I’ve always dreamed of running a half-marathon, but the problem is I’m not a runner—or at least not a consistent (or fast) one. So instead of leaving that aspiration dangling on my list of things I’ve always wanted to do but will probably never attempt, I decided to commit to myself (and my husband and my dad) that I will run a 10K in 2010. That’s half way to a half-marathon.

So I’m currently training on a 5K schedule and will switch to the 10K schedule when I feel ready. When I feel like quitting I simply have to remind myself that I committed to do this—and my word is on the line.

Making commitments and keeping them will teach you a lot about yourself. Four- plus years ago when Michael and I got married he decided he wanted to go back to school and complete his degree. It wasn’t a goal. It was a commitment. And we also committed to doing it without going into debt.

Consistently for the last four years I’ve watched my husband sacrifice golf outings with his buddies, time with me and even incredible work and ministry opportunities so he could study and continue keeping the commitment he made to complete his degree.

Staying true to our commitment to put him through school without debt has also taken the same type of tenacity and determination. That story also merits its own post on the sometimes miraculous ways God provided, but there were times when we had to forfeit new clothes, a vacation, Starbucks, movie tickets, eating out and other such luxuries so we could stick to our commitment.

At the end of this month I will write the final tuition check. On April 14th Michael will hand in his very last paper. And on May 28th he will cross the stage with the other graduates. On that day we will know he did more than just complete his degree—he will have kept his word and honored a commitment. He will have finished what he said he would do.

Few things compete with the thrill of finishing what you set out to do—especially if unforeseen obstacles popped up along the way and threatened to derail you.

Now, I’ll be honest with you. I am publicly stating on my blog that I commit to run a 10K in 2010 because I need a reason to keep going when I’m out there training and I want to quit. You are now that reason. I’ve given you my word and I’ve made a commitment, and barring any type of medical setback, I intend to keep it—even when I wish I didn’t have to.

What about you. What will you commit to do this year?