Posts Tagged ‘God’

Ordinary Day, Extraordinary God

Friday, December 4th, 2009

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It only took a moment for God to change the world. Everyone else was busy going about his or her daily routine unaware Mary’s story had just been forever interrupted and life—as the whole world knew it—was about to change.

I imagine the scene this way (bear with me, I have a vivid imagination): Mary’s dad was at work, and her mom may have been out at the market. Her siblings were tending to their own tasks, and her fiancé Joseph was out earning a living. 

God watched from heaven that afternoon, as the stage He had been designing ever since the world began was finally set to His liking. He probably gave a slight nod as He turned to the angel Gabriel.

“Now,” He said softly. “But wait,” He added as Gabriel turned back to face Him. “Don’t scare her; she will do just as you ask. So be gentle.”

Gabriel nodded, as He looked glory in the face one last time before he set out to alter eternity. Mary had no idea a miracle was on the way—and she most certainly had no idea it was on its way to her womb.  

The Gospels tell us Mary was one who was favored and blessed. My first response was to grab a synonym finder to see just what that meant.  To be favored means: to be preferred, chosen, privileged, the favorite, affluent, elite and noble. To be blessed means: to be exalted, happy, glad, pleased and contented.  

Although those definitions seemed to fit perfectly with what Luke was saying, a few moments of rummaging through Mary’s past is enough to show most people did not see her that way. Mary was just a small town girl. Not only that, she was a poor girl from a despised small town. 

Mary was a nobody, yet she found favor and blessing with God. How many times do we look in the mirror and find a nobody staring back at us? We often limit what God can do with our lives, because we think our upbringing, our appearance, or our life is not a sufficient tool for the hands of God to use for His glory. 

If Mary really was a nobody, all it took for God to make her somebody was one miracle on a lonely day when she was just going about her daily business. God’s formula for success isn’t found in some stuffy rule book, His chosen are not normally found in palaces (although sometimes He chooses to take them there like He did Esther and David), and His favored are often those who have nothing to offer but one small life—the type of life nobody notices until God steps on the scene.

Yes, God called a girl once before and He will most certainly do it again.

Years later God is still trying to get the world’s attention. And so it is at you He looks with favor and blessing. He sees what you do not see—you are in the line of Mary. So as the world is passing you by without even a glance, God is setting the stage. 

“This girl is something,” He says to the angels in His company. “She is a real gem.” 

Jesus smiles and pauses, “She reminds me of My mother.”

Acts 17:26 says God appointed the very time and place each of us should live. As He mapped out the timeline for all of mankind, He penciled you in here and now for a reason. You have a divine purpose. God’s signature is on your life, and beneath it heaven can read the words, “favored and blessed.”

Before you rush to the mirror to see if I am telling the truth, let me warn you—most of the time human eyes see things differently than God does. Heavenly handwriting is not usually read on earthly ground, but it is God’s identifying mark on those whom He has chosen. He sees it, He knows it is there and He knows for what purpose it was written on your life. And as God was with Mary, so He will be with you. 

Excerpt taken from God Called a Girl. To purchase a copy click here.

Lessons from Hot Chocolate

Wednesday, November 18th, 2009

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The other morning I went to make hot chocolate. Not the homemade kind. I gave up on that a few years ago when I accidentally confused condensed milk and evaporated milk and wound up with a concoction that tasted like burnt chalk. On my recent attempt, I used instant hot chocolate from a box.

In times past I’ve frowned on the from-a-box variety because it tastes too watered down and not chocolaty enough. Turns out, my mugs are on the large side and I should have measured the amount of water I used per packet of hot chocolate mix. Since I usually just eyeballed it I typically ended up with brown water.

This time I measured and the result were perfect: warm, foamy chocolaty goodness. The water-to-powder ratio was everything. That got me thinking about some other ratios I encounter, namely my God-to-life ratio.

Have you ever hurried your way through life only stopping here and there to offer up a one sentence prayer or spend a quick five minutes aimlessly paging your way through your Bible hoping to “hear from the Lord”?

If your life is anything like mine you are just plain busy, always cramming 15 things into a slot on your schedule that was really only made to hold five. Because of that you tend to skip or rush your quiet times, and squeeze God in whenever you can find five extra minutes—which is, like, almost never.

Then you wake up one morning realizing that your life is a mess—just like the brown water I’ve made on previous attempts at hot chocolate. Somewhere along the line you stopped measuring. Your life-to-God ratio is off. Without even thinking about it, your days have been crammed full of too much life and not enough God.

And when things go wrong, like they most certainly will, and freshly manicured nails break, rent checks bounce, boyfriends end relationships and friends begin ignoring you and not returning your calls you find yourself wanting to throw your hands up in the air and scream, What is going on here?

It’s in moments like this that I can picture God peeling back the floor of heaven and looking down on His irate and inconvenienced child and saying, “It’s about time you showed up. I’ve been sitting here waiting for days.”

With the holidays quickly approaching it seems like the pressure to get things done has tripled in my life. I’m sure your life is similar. There’s always more to do—finals, papers, projects. And more fun to be had—parties, family gatherings, and holiday traditions. And the temptation is stronger than ever to leave your Bible unopened and your prayers unsaid.

Before you do that, think of your life-to-God ratio. It’s the times when life is at its busiest that you need to spend the most time with God. Otherwise, you’ll soon find yourself with nothing but a lukewarm mug full of brown water.

Nobody wants to drink that.

“I rise before dawn and cry for help; I wait for Your words.”

–Psalm 119:47

Faith It Until You Feel It

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

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“Faith it until you feel it.”

Now, before you quickly shut your browser or click away from my blog because you think I’m selling a useless brand of Christian fluff let me explain why that statement by my pastor is actually full of sound biblical advice.

He used that statement in the context of worship. He was preaching out of Psalm 100 and he was exploring the exorbitant display of worship that the psalmist was calling all of us to.

I don’t know about you, but things like shouting for joy, possessing gladness, singing joyful songs and offering prayers of thanksgiving can be difficult for me when life gets hard, my way grows dark and God doesn’t do what I want Him too. It’s much easier to shuffle into church, put my head down and mumble my way through the songs.

Or, if my heart has been really sliced and diced recently I might not even sing at all. During some seasons it’s all I can do to get to church and sitting in broken silence is the best I can offer.

That’s not the correct response to being in the presence of the one true God. When we examine who God really is (the creator of the universe) and what He has done for us (forgiven us of our sins even though we keep sinning, and provided salvation to us) the correct response is a hands raised, voices elevated worship fest.

But we are a fickle people and when we don’t feel like worshipping excessively we don’t. We reserve those moments of overflowing adoration for times when our senses are heightened and our emotions are overwhelmed.

Psalm 100 isn’t a suggestion for how to worship on our best days. It’s a command to worship God fully every day. That’s where the aforementioned controversial statement comes in.

Faith it until you feel it.

That means you worship the Lord for who the Bible says He is even when your circumstances cloud your perspective and He doesn’t seem like He’s coming through for you. When healing is withheld from a loved one, you can worship Him as the healer even though you don’t feel like He is.

If money is tight and you are worried about paying your next bill you can still praise Him for being your provider because that’s what the Bible says He is. You can raise your hands to God Almighty even when you are facing the biggest defeat of your life because that’s the name the Bible gives Him.

Ephesians 2:8 says we are saved by grace through faith not by grace through feelings. So when you are broken and your life is hard you may need to apply the “faith it until you feel it” mentality to your worship. Praise God for who He is and not just who you perceive Him to be in that moment.

Your tragedy, your trial, will not last forever. One day there will be a breakthrough. Then you will feel joy again. Worshiping with hands raised and your voice lifted up will come naturally. But until then, worship God lavishly through faith.

Not because you feel like it. But because it’s what He deserves.

Memorizing the Curves

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009

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Last weekend I was driving to my parent’s house. In order to get there I have to take a windy road that cuts through the mountains in the Cleveland National Forest. Over the years I’ve made the trek so many times that I’ve memorized the curves in the road. Although I can’t see what awaits me on the other side of each turn I’m able to visualize the road in my mind.

Although weather, construction and other cars can provide some sense of variation on my journey, knowing the curves keeps me pretty well equipped for my drive.

If only the curves of life could be memorized.

Imagine being able to navigate through the trials and disappointments of life knowing what awaited you on the other side. Setbacks would mere delays instead of life altering events. Disappointed expectations would be gentle redirections. Peace would reign and panic would be banished from our lives.

But we can’t memorize the curves of life. Cancer still ravishes bodies. Dads continue to walk out on families. Friends betray friends. Sometimes, no matter how prepared we are, life takes us by surprise. Every drive down the road of life isn’t the same. We don’t always arrive at our destinations unscathed.  

Yet there is another option that is even better than memorizing the curves, but we tend to overlook it. While we cannot predict the outcome of our circumstances we can learn to rely on the faithfulness of God. We can trust Him in the unknown. We can put our full weight on His reliability in the midst of the confusing and devastating things of life.

When life floods us with problems we can’t solve, heartache we can’t fix and circumstances that are less than ideal we can rest assured in one thing:

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” –Romans 8:28

What are the first three words of that verse? And we know…We what? We know. What do we know? That in all things God is working for the good of those who love Him.

Now, God’s perspective of good and our idea of it can be two totally different things. Remember, God can see what lies beyond the next curve and you can’t. What you see as good might be outshined by something that God can see is better. So, He may withhold something from you that looks like it would be just what you need because in His wisdom and sovereignty He knows that really it would do you harm.

So, instead of lamenting the fact that you can’t memorize the curves in life, spend your time memorizing the character traits of the One who can see further down the road than you can.

Lessons from a Slow Boiling Cup of Tea

Wednesday, October 14th, 2009

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I was cold. It was early and I knew that a cup of tea would be just the thing to warm me up. So I put the kettle on and stood there waiting for the water to boil.

I waited and waited. It seemed to be taking so long that I examined the clock to see if something was wrong with it. The minutes were ticking away but my water wasn’t boiling. Finally, in exasperation, I ventured back upstairs to get my slippers. That’s when I heard it. My kettle was whistling. The water was finally ready.

As I sipped my tea I began to think about a circumstance in my life that I was waiting to see change. For over a year I had been expectantly waiting on God to move in this area and He hadn’t. And with each passing week I was becoming more and more agitated.

Just as I was staring at the tea kettle waiting for the water to boil, I had been staring at my circumstance waiting for it to change. It quickly became an all consuming passion. I lived and breathed to see the outcome I wanted. Certainly, this change would glorify God. So what was He waiting for? Why would He deny me of something that would bring Him much glory?

Through his current sermon series my pastor was able to walk me through some truths I desperately needed to be reminded of:

  •  •Everything God does is for His glory
  • • I know God works all things together for my good

As I began to process these truths I began to realize that if everything God did was for His glory then when He looked at my circumstance and my future He saw that greater glory could come from either a delay in what I was asking or through an entirely different plan altogether. Knowing that helped me see this delay of action in a different light.

Recognizing that God ultimately has my best interest at heart (Romans 8:28, Jeremiah 29:11) also helped me reevaluate my circumstance too. Getting what I wanted now (and maybe even ever—that part still remains to be seen) obviously isn’t good for me, or God would have moved in and taken action by now. So, really His failure to act is His way of protecting me from danger, going down the wrong path or settling for second best.

He can see my calendar six months from now. I can’t. He can see my calendar six years from now. I can’t. Because God has the ability to see into the future and recognize the struggles, triumphs, dangers and victories that await me He knows exactly what to schedule into my life and when.

That’s a hard truth for a control freak like me. It’s not easy to come to terms with the fact that staring at the tea kettle isn’t going to make it boil any faster. Water boils at its own speed. God moves on His own clock.

So on a day like today when there are many things I don’t understand about God and the mystery of His ways, I’m going to choose to rely on the things I do know: God loves me and His plans for me are good.

And now I’m going to make another cup of tea—at whatever speed the water chooses to boil.

Proverbs: One Bite at a Time

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009

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Lately I’ve been spending a lot of time in Proverbs. It’s amazing to me how one little verse can bring such a sting. Consider these verses for example:

“Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall.” –Proverbs 16:18

“Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down.” –-Proverbs 26:20

“He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.” –Proverbs 28:13

In the hustle bustle of life we tend to think we don’t have time to stop and read the Bible each morning. But really we do. What if we made time for just one Proverb? I’m not even talking about an entire chapter, just one verse.

Think about it. If we all read one Proverb a day and really worked to apply it things would not look the same. Pride would be gone. Gossip would cease. Sin would be forsaken. It’s like the world would be an entirely different place and we would be changed people. Better people.

Earlier this month I sent 30 days of “Bible Bites” to those on my mailing list. There was one verse from Proverbs assigned to every day. Each day when we read our Proverb we are to ask ourselves three questions:

  • •What is this verse talking about?
  • •How does that apply to me?
  • •What should my response be?

Let me show you. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

  • •This verse is talking about how we respond to other people and their actions.
  • •If one of my friends upset me, this verse encourages me to answer with gentleness instead of screaming at her.
  • •Next time someone hurts me I should gather my thoughts (and possibly say a silent prayer) before answering in a gentler way. According to this verse, that will diffuse the situation. 

Amazing. That took less than five minutes. But reading just one Proverb can better prepare me for the next conflict that arises in my life. Really, I don’t think it’s how much of the Bible we read but how often we read the Bible that counts. And it’s not just about reading it. It’s about applying it too.

If you would like to receive a free Bible Bites reading plan that assigns one verse from Proverbs to read each day, you can sign up for my mailing list. On the Free Stuff section at my website you can also find downloadable memory cards to help you take your daily Proverb with you wherever you go.

Tackling the Bible in bite sized pieces makes it manageable for all of us—and could make a huge difference in the way we live. Will you take the one Proverb a day challenge?

Sand, Stones and Priorities

Monday, September 21st, 2009

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Summer is officially over. I know it ended a few weeks ago when everyone went back to school around Labor Day, but by now the reality has set in.

Homework is in full swing. Life, as you knew it a month ago, is over.

Lately I’ve perused the Facebook status updates of some of my reader friends who are still in high school or college, and I’m overwhelmed just reading about their daily schedules. School, sports practice, homework, youth group (or small group) and finally bed. A few have jobs thrown in there too. Most talk affectionately about the time they get to spend with their pillows—which isn’t much. Life is exhausting.

So, how do you keep it all straight? How do you survive the new school year without losing your mind? More than a few of you seem to be screaming, Can somebody please help me figure out my priorities?!

I’ve been there many times. When I was in high school my former youth pastor offered a stunning visual that has stuck with me for over a decade. On his desk he kept a jar that contained several smooth stones and some sand. One day I asked him what it was for. Oddly, it was a visual reminder about priorities. He showed me what he meant.

“If I were to take this empty jar and fill it to the top with sand there wouldn’t be any room for the stones,” he said. “But if I put the stones in the jar first and then pour the sand around it, everything fits.”

I stared at him for a moment trying to figure out the point.

“The stones represent the most important things in my life—my relationship with Christ, time with family, etc… the sand is everything else. I have to make sure I put the most important things first. Everything else can squeeze in around it. If I put everything else first there is no longer room for the most important things.”

Suddenly I understood. The best way for you to prioritize in this new school year is to follow the principle of the stones and the sand.

When you are trying to figure out the best way to spend your time each week, think about what’s most important to you. If you want God to be one of your priorities then make sure you set aside some time to meet with Him before you flip on the TV to watch your favorite show and unwind. There’s nothing wrong with TV—I have my favorite shows too. Just make sure it’s the sand and not a stone. DVRs can come in handy here.  

If relationships are on the top of your list of priorities, don’t spend so much time taking quizzes on Facebook and make time to hang out with your friends instead. Facebook quizzes aren’t bad—but they can zap a lot of your time if you aren’t careful. Make a rule—for every quiz you take, you have to talk to one person in person or on the phone. It will help you keep better track of your time and manage your priorities better.  

Sit down this week and determine what your top three “stones” are during this season of your life. That will help you identify how to prioritize your time. If it’s not one of your stones, then it’s sand. Sand comes second.

You only have so much time. Prioritizing is a must. Only so many things can be at the top of your list. Choose wisely. Then stick to your decisions at all costs. If you do, the school year will be so much better.

What are some examples of “sand” that can suck your time? Can you quickly identify your top three “stones” or are they something you really need to think about? In the past, what are some areas you have neglected and later regretted? What are some other analogies that can help you with the issue of managing your priorities?

When Your Friends Stop Believing

Friday, September 18th, 2009

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Please tell me I’m not the only one who has been talked into going somewhere with a friend that I probably wouldn’t have gone on my own.

Last weekend my husband and I wound up at the symphony with two of our good friends. Don’t get me wrong. I like classical music. But I don’t love it. Hearing it live is probably not something I would have suggested we do on a Saturday night. But we wanted to see our friends and that is what they wanted to do, so we went. And we had a good time.

Sometimes going with the flow is good in relationships. I’ve sat through more than a few movies that weren’t my favorite. But there are times that going with the flow isn’t a wise choice—especially when your friends begin to doubt God’s existence and slowly lead you away from a faith that was once rock solid (or seemed like it anyway).

I get emails all the time from girls who used to believe—and “still might”—but now their friends don’t believe in God anymore so they just aren’t sure. It’s especially troubling for a girl when the person who no longer believes played a pivotal role in helping her establish her own faith.

When I was in high school my youth pastor’s wife had an affair with the dad of some students in our youth group. My husband’s youth pastor was removed from his later post as a senior pastor due to an undisclosed scandal involving some teenage girls. You don’t have to convince me about how traumatizing it can be when someone you once respected leaves the faith or makes a huge mistake. I know it’s devastating. And it creates questions.

This is why knowing what you believe is so important. Barna Research states that 80% of churchgoing teens leave the Christian faith by their 29th birthdays. If that’s true, I would surmise that the majority of churchgoing teens don’t know what they believe, which makes it easy to stop believing later on. You need to learn what the Bible says, but you also need to see it at work in your life.

I can’t provide all of the answers here for you on the blog (although I try to help you work through things in bite sized chunks). So I want to suggest a few things that will help you stand firm when friends and leaders waiver:

•Get plugged in with a small group this fall. If you don’t have a youth group you are part of, email me and let me know where you live and I will help you find one.

Sign up for my FREE email newsletter. Although it provides a host of features, one of my favorite things about it is the Bible Bites column where I give you one verse to read each day and three questions to ask yourself that will help you apply and remember it.

•Use an actual Bible study in your quiet time. There are tons out there. But you might be interested in my True Life Bible study series. Each book centers on the life of a biblical teenage girl: Leah, Hagar or Miriam. This series aims to teach you how to apply the Bible to the daily drama of real life.

•Read one of the following books: Experiencing God: Youth Edition, The Case for Christ: Youth Edition, Do Hard Things

It’s one thing to follow a friend to a movie or concert that might not be your taste. It’s another thing to leave a God who loves you just because someone else leaves Him. Experience God in relationship and know what you believe and why.

“God Doesn’t Answer My Prayers”

Wednesday, September 16th, 2009

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Have you talked to someone and noticed they weren’t listening? I hate that—especially when what I am saying is important. Nothing makes you feel worse than the indication that your cares are not significant.

Sometimes we feel that way about God. Recently I’ve received a handful of emails or Facebook messages from those of you who feel like your prayers are bouncing off the walls of heaven. God doesn’t listen, you think. God doesn’t care. Then you begin to wonder if He’s even real.

I’ve had my own unanswered prayers. Some I’m grateful for—like the fact I didn’t marry the guy I had a crush on when I was fifteen. Others still break my heart—like the time God didn’t heal my grandpa when he was dying.

In the emails I receive from girls I’ve noticed a pattern. Many of you pull out a verse and use it like a trump card. Jesus says in Matthew 18:19, “Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.”

Then you cross your arms in defiance and say, “I had all of my friends praying with me about this and God didn’t answer. So He must not be real.”

Now, what you are trying to do here is good. You are looking in the Bible to see what God says He will do and you’re holding Him to it (just like we talked about on Monday). Great. But there is a problem.

In most books of the Bible (Proverbs excluded) you cannot just pick one verse without consulting the verses around it and assume you know what it means. Context is everything—it’s true in all written correspondence and even in our speech. I once had a girl write to me to say my book Being a Girl Who Loves inspired her to stay in an abusive relationship because it would give her an opportunity to be more loving.

When I read that I couldn’t respond fast enough to tell her that was not the best conclusion to draw. I then encouraged her to love the person by leaving him and reporting him so he could get help. Imagine if she never wrote to me and kept getting beat up thinking it was what Jesus wanted her to do! The thought makes me sick.

We always need to read in context. Matthew 18:19 is couched between verses on church discipline and how the leadership should handle a member of the church living in habitual sin. They need to pray and come to an agreement on how to proceed. As they do God will be with them and do as they ask.

Unfortunately that verse isn’t a free pass to ask for anything we want and get it. If it was there would be far more millionaires and no more starving people. People would probably never die either. A world where everyone could pray for whatever they wanted and get it would be impossible too since someone’s prayers would most likely contradict someone else’s.

So you can’t call God a liar or non-existent because He doesn’t answer every prayer the way you want Him too. But you should still pray. Why? God invites us to.

Philippians 4:6 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.”

What’s the point?

Oswald Chambers says it best: “Our ordinary views of prayer are not found in the New Testament. We look upon prayer as a means for getting something for ourselves; the Bible’s idea of prayer is that we may get to know God Himself.”

Get to know God. Pray. And trust Him to answer in the best way possible.

God on Trial

Monday, September 14th, 2009

Courtroom detailA few months ago I had jury duty. I sat in a courtroom with 100 potential jurors as a young man sat behind a table with his attorney and we were interviewed.

They were picky because the charge was murder and the penalty would be steep.

That young man had one trial to determine whether he did or didn’t kill someone. What if the evidence brought against him was mistakenly from someone else’s trial? Imagine if an innocent man was locked up because a prosecutor brought forth a bloody knife used for a different crime. That man would be deemed a murderer due to evidence that wasn’t evidence at all.

Now, that (hopefully) doesn’t happen in America’s courtrooms. But it often happens in America’s churches. People put God on trial and claim He doesn’t exist by holding Him to promises He never made.

Typically, the teen girls who write to me with doubts about God can point to a reason why: the divorce of their parents, abuse, the death of a loved one, etc…

“If God was good, if He was real, He wouldn’t allow that to happen to me,” they write in frustration. Their hurts are real. And in many cases, their anger is valid. But their argument that if God were real, life would be pain free isn’t a well-founded one.  

This is why knowing what you are looking for is important. What these girls are saying is that they are looking for a god who takes away pain and only passes out blessings. Great! Wouldn’t we all love a god like that?

The problem is, the God of the Bible never promised to make life perfect. In fact, Jesus Himself said, “In this world you will have trouble…” (John 16:33).

So, you can’t use pain to prove God doesn’t exist since He never promised to remove pain from our lives. If you are looking for a god who makes life all sunshine and roses, you aren’t looking for the God of the Bible.

If you want to know whether the God of the Bible exists, then you have to look at what He promises to do. He sets the standard you can measure Him against.

What does the God of the Bible promise us?

  • His plans are to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11)
  • He works all things together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purposes (Romans 8:28)
  • Nothing can separate you from the love of God (Romans 8:38-39)

Can you look back over your life and see any good? Did you survive a dramatic attack that should have killed you? Do you have at least one parent who still loves you after a divorce? Is there a part of you crying out to God even though something awful happened? Is there still a desire to believe if His existence can be proven?

Those are good things. Glimmers of hope in the midst of tragedy. Small proofs that God is Who He says He is.

Have your bad experiences led you anywhere good? Maybe your parents got divorced, but now your alcoholic dad can no longer beat you or your mom when he is drunk. You are in a place of brokenness, but you are in a place of safety.

If you are going to call the God of the universe into question, and force Him to stand trial over whether or not He exists, you need to make sure the evidence you hold against Him is accurate. You cannot base His existence on whether or not He gives you everything you want. The only thing you can hold Him to is whether or not He provides you with everything He has promised.

Know Who you are looking for.